Struggling

It’s happening again. My creativity is constipated. My muse has buggered off on holiday and despite having several great ideas in my head, putting them down on paper isn’t happening.

That time you sit and write, only to read back a load of absolute rubbish, which you delete anyway, because lets face it, it doesn’t make sense to anyone, not even you!

That time you sit to write, only to find that even though you have lots of words floating around in your head, they refuse to be plucked out of your mind and be restrained into paper format. It’s as if they’re saying “bitch, if you take one step closer I will stab you with this rusty fork!” and so you leave it be, because who wants to be stabbed by a rusty fork. No thank you.

So today will mostly be working on, talking down my words with the skills of a trained hostage negotiator, in the hope that I can produce some words and not be stabbed by a rusty fork, and begging my muse to come back from her holidays!

 

 

 

 

secrets

I have so much to write about, unfortunately it’s the kind of stuff that isn’t ready to be made public yet! Simply because eyes have walls, or rather, walls have eyes (and ears!), and if I say something on here then eventually it’ll get back to those I’m not really to tell just yet. But as soon as I am in a position to say something, I will! It’s not that I don’t trust you dear readers, it’s just, well, I have to keep a lid on it. Hopefully not for much longer mind you, or at least I hope not!

It is so frustrating, but I guess I have to have patience. Although, as my husband can tell you I do not have much patience, for ANYTHING! So much that for the last 6 weeks I keep asking him if I can give him his birthday present, which I’ve done a stellar job of hiding (yeah, that WAS sarcasm). His birthday is 10 days away and I am itching to bust it out, thrust it into his lap and squeak like a 5 year old on Christmas day “open it! OPEN IT!” and to see his face.

I hate keeping secrets, because I can’t think of anything else to post about on Mrs Flams!!!

update on August 16th
So I can finally say why the secret was. I was waiting to hear back on an awesome new job, which I found out today that I was not successful. Oh well. Never mind.

YouTube test

I’ve been having some issues embedding YouTube videos into my post. So I’m testing the theory behind the advice given today.

Lets she if this works.  If it does, then you should be watching one of my ALL TIME FAVOURITE films from when I was a kid.

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=89ROM97DlE0&list=PL149BDEBB2A669908&feature=mh_lolz

Illuminating Blogger Award Nominee

Apparently I’ve been nominated to win a blogger award. Um. Speechless.

Me? a Nominee for a blogger award. who’s have thought it?!?

Thanks CJ at Food Stories for nominating me. still speechless!!

It seems nominations are still open, so you too can nominate someone to win this award.

Click here for more information.

writing – it’s surprisingly hard

One of the worst things about having a blog? Is also one of the best things.

It’s Writing.

Now writing may not seem hard, especially when you’re reading someone elses posts or articles or novels or short stories or notes on bathroom walls, but when you actually sit down to do it yourself, it’s really damn hard. (note to all, I don’t make a habit or scrawling crap on bathroom walls whilst peeing)

There are times when I have such great ideas for a post and then I sit down and it’s just gone.

There are times when I’m mid-post and I’m in full flow, only to read it back and think “what a load of shite” and delete it all.

There are times when something happens that I can blog about and once it’s there in black and white, it’s just not the same.

There are times when I have so much stuff that I want to write but I can’t because it’s not time to share it yet (believe me there is a LOT of that shit).

There are times when I feel pressure to write a post that is witty and amusing and that shit just doesn’t help at all.

Writing is hard. It really is. However there are lots of tools and ideas that can help.

  1. Scheduling posts – a great option to use.  Most blog platforms have this option.  Normally once you start writing, your creative juices start flowing in abundance.  If that happens, GO FOR IT.  Keep writing, because you can schedule those posts for another time. You can go back to them and edit them, improve them, take things away, change the schedule date.  Blog Scheduling is your friend.
  2. Blogging Apps – so many times I have a great idea for a post, but computer to access my blog and write. Sometimes not even a pen and paper to jot down the idea. To be honest, even when I do that and go to write a few hours later, what I write isn’t good. Find an app for your smart phone. I use the WordPress for iPhone, it’s easy to use and FREE from the app store.  It allows you to blog on the move as long as you can connect to the internet.
  3. Blog Prompts – so many sites offer blog prompts. Use them. It can kick-start your muse into gear and lead you to producing some excellent work.
  4. Silence – sometimes you don’t even need to say anything in a post. A picture is sufficient. You can have Wordless Wednesdays, Silent Sundays or even Muted Mondays. Afterall the saying does go “a picture is a thousand words”
  5. Share – use your blog to share things, like posts from other bloggers.  Is there a blog that you read regularly or a blogger that inspries you? Write about why they inspire you, link back to your favourite post by them. Just make sure that you have permission to use any of their site content and give credit where it’s due.

CrapCartoons

Tonight CrapCartoons was created. Thanks to MummyBarrow.

This was the conversation that started it all.

and then crapcartoons was born!

 

I failed Art, so badly that I wasn’t allowed to take it as a GCSE option. Yet still MummyBarrow wanted my drawing.

Here’s her post.

Here’s the original drawing.

Celebrity Dad is all “WTF?!?”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’m an artist. Heh.

Wonder if the Tate Modern would be interested…..

Blogging Conferences

The best part of blogging for me isn’t page hits, or comments (although they are nice) but rather the community of bloggers that I interact with.  I interact with some fabulous bloggers on a day to day basis and they are from all kinds of backgrounds. From different countries, the USA, Canada, the UK, Switzerland, Hungary, Austrailia, you name it.

There are the “mom” bloggers, the “dad” bloggers, the “humourist” bloggers, the “political” bloggers but generally it’s just people who blog and most of them at some point on their own blog cover every single topic from parenting, sex and food to politics and current affairs and they are all fabulous.  I’m still finding my way, and there are always things to learn, ways to improve.

Every year for the past 3 years I have followed my favourite bloggers, reading their posts and tweets and facebook statuses about going to conferences, BlogHer, Blissdom, Mom 2.0, Dad 2.0, BlogHer Food, SheCon, Type-A Con, there are so many conferences! The one thing they all have in common?  It’s that they are in North America. Problematic for me, living in London and not being rich. The cost of attending just one of these conferences in my lifetime is pretty much next to nil. It’s just too costly for me to go, even with a sponsor, which is a WHOLE other story.

Then last week a UK blogger that I interact with posted a tweet about going to BritMumsLive. A conference for “mummy” bloggers in London. HOLY SHIT.  A CONFERENCE IN LONDON. Oh. Wait. it’s called BritMumsLive. I don’t have kids. I think to myself, “is it wierd to go to a conference for “mummy” bloggers when you’re not a “mummy”?

I really want to go to a conference, to hear people speak, to interact with other bloggers in person. Why?  Because there is so much I can learn and also, it’s interacting with the people I’ve built up an online rapport with over the last 5 years (mostly). I sent a message off to BritMumsLive asking if you had to be a “mummy” to attend and they said “no, all bloggers are welcome!” Cue my heart going pitty-patty with excitement. A Blogging Conference in my own city!!!

Whilst I’d love to go to BlogHer, the cost for me is phenomenal, compared to BritMumsLive (see approximate costings below).  So guess where I’m going next year?!?

BlogHer vs BritMumsLive
*hotel in London is optional

 

updated – LIVE!

Welcome to the new Mrs Flams blog!

There are still a fair few things to finish on this site, but the majority of it is completed! YAY!

Currently I’ve still to create my Contact page, so please bear with me whilst I do this.  In all honesty I’m a bit slow when it comes to all things computery, but I learn fast.

In the meantime, if you want to contact me, you can do so at

contact [at] mrsflams [dot] co [dot] uk

 

UPDATE – the contact page is now functional!

How to burn bridges and alienate bloggers

I am 27. The content on this blog consists of my own experiences, my own words and my own work. Occasionally I will post a cartoon, or photo, that clearly I did not draw (because I can’t even draw stick men….) or take, but I follow the rules. I link back where possible and I ask for permission.

I don’t have a huge following. I am not an expert writer, or expert blogger, hell I’m not even a professional blogger. I blog for shits and giggles (please, seriously, don’t send me any shits, I am however happy to accept giggles, unless giggles is some strange weird euphemism for some sort of sex position/game, then thanks, but no thanks).

I am not an activist (normally), I am not a humourist (generally), I’m just a “regular” “normal” 27-year-old woman (28 in 11 days time) living in London (check the about me section).

Today the blogosphere exploded on Twitter.

Why? Plagiarism.

You can read about it here.

If you’re too lazy to click the link and read, then basically the gist of it is this headline from BethAvant over at ShePosts.com “Babble Blogger Kristin Ruiz Outed for Plagiarizing Amalah’s Posts”. Kristin Ruiz of Our Ordinary Life was found to have plagiarised posts from Amy over at Amalah.com. The resulting action? Bloggers from across the USA, Canada and Europe hit the roof.

Lifting content from somewhere else is a BIG no no. Unless you have permission from the blogger (preferably written permission) and you state your source or link back to the ORIGINAL post, then DO NOT remove any content from another bloggers site, no exceptions, no excuses.

It seems that Kristin stated that she didn’t mean to do anything wrong and kept stating that she was young, only 27 years old.

I am 27 years old. I can’t understand how someone who is 27 years old doesn’t understand that taking someone elses work and passing it off as your own is wrong.

When you start school and you’re given homework and tests and what not, you are told not to copy others work. When you do exams in Middle School or High School if you get caught copying someone elses answers then you FAIL. We are taught from a young age that copying someone elses work is NOT ok. When you go to college or university your essays are scrutinised to ensure you have not plagiarised them. Time and time again, whilst growing up, it was drummed into me that you don’t copy someone elses work. Copying was wrong. I cannot understand how someone who is the same age as me doesn’t understand this concept. I know that school systems across the world are different, but COME ON, they can’t be that different when it comes to stuff like this.

BethAvant from Sheposts.com gives a few suggestions, which you can read in her post which is linked above. Make a point of reading her suggestions, they will be invaluable to you as a blogger.

Take heed people. If you want to be taken seriously as a blogger, or get paid to blog, then follow the rules. Work hard and earn respect by creating your own content, using your own words and try not to piss off the entire blogosphere. Once you piss off the blogosphere then you’re done. Do not pass GO, do not collect your £200.

Always think before hitting that “Publish” button and be prepared to admit you’re wrong and apologise when you are in fact, wrong.

Your actions will have consequences, don’t forget that.